Brothers Osborne - “I’m Not For Everyone”

[sabre14]

Artist: Brothers Osborne 
Single: “I’m Not for Everyone”
Writers: John Osborne, T.J. Osborne, Luke Dick, Natalie Hemby
Album: Skeletons
Label: EMI Nashville/UMG Nashville
Impact Date: April 26th, 2021

New Brothers Osborne single. Should hit radio later on today.

[recordyear]

Would be nice if this is performed on ACM Awards show (and maybe T.J. kissing his boyfriend on stage?)

[phil1996]

Sounds like a total smash hit, but after “I Don’t Remember Me” flopped, who knows 🤦🏻‍♂️ Hoping for the best.

[Kanenrá:ke]

Was pulling for "All The Good Ones Are" but this works just as well! I'd be very happy to see this return them to the top 20 and I think it sounds like something that could go that far but I thought the same about "I Don't Remember Me" too.

[🌺CountryLineDancer]

Yes, great choice!!! One of my favs from the album.
Please don't flop!!!

[kim8]

Yay!! I love this one. Hope it’s a hit for them.

[SHOOTER]

I was hoping either this or All the Good Ones Are would be the next single so I'm stoked! Hope it connects and turns into another hit for them.

[kw9461]

My favorite single of theirs since "Stay a Little Longer", really hope this does well. I couldn't get into their last single at all and it still did fairly well at radio, so hoping for big things for this one.

[Deleted]

I was hoping for High Note, but this one works for me as well!

[castleoblivion26]

super excited for this, I love this song! I hope it does well, though I am definitely remaining cautious on that happening

[zaclord 🌈]

Yesssss best song on the album, EASILY (and it's a stellar album). Agreed with the person above that said its their favorite BO single since "Stay a Little Longer". Hope this gets them back into the top 10

[fearlessarrow]

Great choice! I figured this would be the case since it seemed to be getting airplay on Sirius XM (I think there was a post on their social media about "I'm Not For Everyone" going #1 on The Highway). I'm hoping this can do better than "All Night" at the very least.

[taylor]

I was also hoping for "High Note" but this is an incredible choice! "High Note" is just so incredible but this is great as well (and I'm currently spinning it on my personal chart). I can't wait to hear this on the radio; I really hope it does well!

Apr 5, 2021 9:54:16 GMT -5 recordyear said:

Would be nice if this is performed on ACM Awards show (and maybe T.J. kissing his boyfriend on stage?)

My heart will explode with joy for the two of them and laughter at Nancy and Walter when they see that and throw a fit. 

[CoJoFan]

I really hope this does well as this is my favorite song from the album. Country radio for some reason does not think these guys are hit worthy though. These guys should have had multiple #1’s by now. Rum, I Don’t Remember Me (Before You) & 21 Summer definitely should’ve topped the charts. These guys should be the Brooks & Dunn of this generation!

[.indulgecountry]

One of the better songs on the album, so I'm here for this choice!

Apr 6, 2021 14:55:50 GMT -5 taylor said:

Apr 5, 2021 9:54:16 GMT -5 recordyear said:

Would be nice if this is performed on ACM Awards show (and maybe T.J. kissing his boyfriend on stage?)

My heart will explode with joy for the two of them and laughter at Nancy and Walter when they see that and throw a fit. 

Ignoring the obvious that it would very easily kill their career, this just feels... unnecessary? The whole point of him coming out and being like 'hey, I'm gay' was to like normalize himself. Performing on a country awards show and kissing a boy would honestly just be dumb, counter-productive, and reinforce the negative stereotypes that straight people have about gay men.

[The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷]

Apr 7, 2021 9:38:59 GMT -5 .indulgecountry said:

One of the better songs on the album, so I'm here for this choice!

Apr 6, 2021 14:55:50 GMT -5 taylor said:

My heart will explode with joy for the two of them and laughter at Nancy and Walter when they see that and throw a fit. 

Ignoring the obvious that it would very easily kill their career, this just feels... unnecessary? The whole point of him coming out and being like 'hey, I'm gay' was to like normalize himself. Performing on a country awards show and kissing a boy would honestly just be dumb, counter-productive, and reinforce the negative stereotypes that straight people have about gay men.

I agree that doing this would be very dumb from a marketing standpoint, but mostly because I think the general country public would see it as some kind of publicity stunt instead of something genuine and heartfelt, but I personally fail to see how kissing your boyfriend (not sure if he has one) publicly would reinforce any negative stereotypes that straight people have about gay men... that just confused me a bit

[.indulgecountry]

Apr 7, 2021 10:12:27 GMT -5 The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷 said:

Apr 7, 2021 9:38:59 GMT -5 .indulgecountry said:

One of the better songs on the album, so I'm here for this choice!

Ignoring the obvious that it would very easily kill their career, this just feels... unnecessary? The whole point of him coming out and being like 'hey, I'm gay' was to like normalize himself. Performing on a country awards show and kissing a boy would honestly just be dumb, counter-productive, and reinforce the negative stereotypes that straight people have about gay men.

I agree that doing this would be very dumb from a marketing standpoint, but mostly because I think the general country public would see it as some kind of publicity stunt instead of something genuine and heartfelt, but I personally fail to see how kissing your boyfriend (not sure if he has one) publicly would reinforce any negative stereotypes that straight people have about gay men... that just confused me a bit

Well the fact that your mind goes in the direction of 'publicity stunt' kind of ties in with my point. Like the straight country singers aren't already just doing that on stage naturally (unless it's like a Tim/Faith situation, because there's probably been a time or two where they pecked during the end of a performance or something), so if one of the very few openly LGBT artists in the genre comes out on stage and does that, then its reinforcing these sexual deviant/shove-it-in-your-face stereotypes that people have about gay men. No part of TJ kissing his boyfriend on an awards show stage while performing would even remotely make sense or be a win for the gays imo. Him bringing a male date to the show? Sure. Do that. That ties in with his whole narrative of "I just want people to know this about me, but also know that I'm still the same person" vibe that he had with coming out. But pulling a Lil Nas X move in the lane of country music? I don't see it.


I also realize that the suggestion was most likely not even remotely serious in the first place, but I just... felt like responding to it after I saw taylor's co-sign cause idk I was just having a very different thought process go through my head when I read that. No shade to those that wanted the lip service on TV.


ETA: Also to clarify The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷 I was 100% referring to it being in the context of a performance, because that was the statement made. I re-read your post and I think you were applying that to just everyday life and that was not in the scope of my response. I think TJ should kiss his boyfriend in a setting where it makes sense, but on stage while performing a song? Lol no.

[The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷]

Apr 7, 2021 18:56:22 GMT -5 .indulgecountry said:

Apr 7, 2021 10:12:27 GMT -5 The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷 said:

I agree that doing this would be very dumb from a marketing standpoint, but mostly because I think the general country public would see it as some kind of publicity stunt instead of something genuine and heartfelt, but I personally fail to see how kissing your boyfriend (not sure if he has one) publicly would reinforce any negative stereotypes that straight people have about gay men... that just confused me a bit

Well the fact that your mind goes in the direction of 'publicity stunt' kind of ties in with my point. Like the straight country singers aren't already just doing that on stage naturally (unless it's like a Tim/Faith situation, because there's probably been a time or two where they pecked during the end of a performance or something), so if one of the very few openly LGBT artists in the genre comes out on stage and does that, then its reinforcing these sexual deviant/shove-it-in-your-face stereotypes that people have about gay men. No part of TJ kissing his boyfriend on an awards show stage while performing would even remotely make sense or be a win for the gays imo. Him bringing a male date to the show? Sure. Do that. That ties in with his whole narrative of "I just want people to know this about me, but also know that I'm still the same person" vibe that he had with coming out. But pulling a Lil Nas X move in the lane of country music? I don't see it.


I also realize that the suggestion was most likely not even remotely serious in the first place, but I just... felt like responding to it after I saw taylor 's co-sign cause idk I was just having a very different thought process go through my head when I read that. No shade to those that wanted the lip service on TV.


ETA: Also to clarify The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷 I was 100% referring to it being in the context of a performance, because that was the statement made. I re-read your post and I think you were applying that to just everyday life and that was not in the scope of my response. I think TJ should kiss his boyfriend in a setting where it makes sense, but on stage while performing a song? Lol no.

Of course I understood you meant it in the context of a performance Lol

I understand we're discussing the repercussions for a country music artist, so I'm totally on board with saying such a decision could potentially be dumb or counter-productive from a career standpoint, as we know how conservative the country genre still is. But I have some reservations regarding the point that performing a kiss on stage could end up reinforcing negative stereotypes, as I think such an assessment kind of "share" the responsibility over an already established bigoted sentiment from part of the straight population that often times gay people have no control over.

This is a subject I'm not sure I can fully articulate on a second language to be honest Lol

I just don't feel comfortable with the idea that, by doing something as basic as kissing (on stage or anywhere else), gay people can get accused of reinforcing "sexual deviant/shove-it-in-your-face" stereotypes... I just think that this line of though grants too much power to straight people and kinda imprison gay people into that classic "asexual" role that straight people have always assigned as the only "acceptable" way of being gay.

I'm not sure I made any sense, but at least I tried to share my perspective on it 

[Kanenrá:ke]

Apr 8, 2021 0:06:26 GMT -5 The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷 said:

Apr 7, 2021 18:56:22 GMT -5 .indulgecountry said:

Well the fact that your mind goes in the direction of 'publicity stunt' kind of ties in with my point. Like the straight country singers aren't already just doing that on stage naturally (unless it's like a Tim/Faith situation, because there's probably been a time or two where they pecked during the end of a performance or something), so if one of the very few openly LGBT artists in the genre comes out on stage and does that, then its reinforcing these sexual deviant/shove-it-in-your-face stereotypes that people have about gay men. No part of TJ kissing his boyfriend on an awards show stage while performing would even remotely make sense or be a win for the gays imo. Him bringing a male date to the show? Sure. Do that. That ties in with his whole narrative of "I just want people to know this about me, but also know that I'm still the same person" vibe that he had with coming out. But pulling a Lil Nas X move in the lane of country music? I don't see it.


I also realize that the suggestion was most likely not even remotely serious in the first place, but I just... felt like responding to it after I saw taylor 's co-sign cause idk I was just having a very different thought process go through my head when I read that. No shade to those that wanted the lip service on TV.


ETA: Also to clarify The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷 I was 100% referring to it being in the context of a performance, because that was the statement made. I re-read your post and I think you were applying that to just everyday life and that was not in the scope of my response. I think TJ should kiss his boyfriend in a setting where it makes sense, but on stage while performing a song? Lol no.

Of course I understood you meant it in the context of a performance Lol

I understand we're discussing the repercussions for a country music artist, so I'm totally on board with saying such a decision could potentially be dumb or counter-productive from a career standpoint, as we know how conservative the country genre still is. But I have some reservations regarding the point that performing a kiss on stage could end up reinforcing negative stereotypes, as I think such an assessment kind of "share" the responsibility over an already established bigoted sentiment from part of the straight population that often times gay people have no control over.

This is a subject I'm not sure I can fully articulate on a second language to be honest Lol

I just don't feel comfortable with the idea that, by doing something as basic as kissing (on stage or anywhere else), gay people can get accused of reinforcing "sexual deviant/shove-it-in-your-face" stereotypes... I just think that this line of though grants too much power to straight people and kinda imprison gay people into that classic "asexual" role that straight people have always assigned as the only "acceptable" way of being gay.

I'm not sure I made any sense, but at least I tried to share my perspective on it 

I'm way too tired to respond to this the way I wish I could but this is fascinating discussion and it's all thanks to TJ finally allowing us a openly gay man in country (major label*).

[SHOOTER]

I see both sides. I don’t think there’s any sensible context in which you could place him kissing his boyfriend on stage during a performance and it not be perceived as a publicity stunt or blatant form of protest regardless of the intention; even if he were a fellow performer, they were singing a love song (which would probably enough to bristle the feathers) and it was just a natural reaction at the end, I can’t fathom the majority of a conservative audience not receiving it as the good ol' “gay agenda” being forced on them.

Now, with regards to the heteronormative view of any version of sexuality that is not heterosexuality, that’s not weight to be carried by non-hetero people so I do not think those stereotypes are reason enough to justify him not kissing a man on stage. Him showing up with a man on his arm could likely trigger the same kind of reaction so what’s the difference if he gave him a peck on the red carpet vs. the stage?

Now I get that both sides of the argument are essentially predicated on what the straight man thinks but my point is that - unless he wants to have a controversial Britney/Madonna moment and possibly implode his own career - I don’t think he should kiss a man during a performance just for the hell of it because it would be illogical; that’s unnecessary scrutiny and backlash that is easily avoidable. However, he shouldn’t avoid it just because there’s straight men in the room. They need to learn to live respectfully with the fact that gay men exist and, sometimes, they kiss each other in public.

[taylor]

I was half serious, half facetious with my co-sign. He really ought not to kiss his man on stage--unless it's a natural reaction and they get swept up in the moment. And I put that "unless" scenario in to drive home the point that this industry will run into TJ showing public affection to his boyfriend at one point or another, because...that's just what you do when you love someone that much, lol, so this industry needs to deal with it.

But while I agree it'd be a bit dense to kiss him on stage for the sake of it, I also think that TJ will also run into trouble from the homophobes and they'll claim it was a publicity stunt, even if it was a natural reaction, to kiss his man on stage (because we can be gay but must continue to conform to heteronormitivity lest our careers be sacrificed), so I say to let these bigots be a vocal minority (I swear I saw somewhere that over 70% now of this country is supportive or doesn't mind about it) and let TJ bring his man to the show, kiss him on the red carpet, while in the audience, and even on stage IF it's a natural thing after the performance, because if I was either man, I'd have a real problem with having to hide my affection for someone in order to appease people whose thoughts mean nothing to me and whose lives aren't affected by me.

SHOOTER I think has kinda the same thought process and explains mine much better.

[recordyear]

I really didn't expect a serious discussion about my half-joke comment.

What I was thinking is there will be a couple (Ryan Hurd & Maren Morris) performing and they are likely to kiss on-stage. Meanwhile this song is about embracing the difference of self versus others, and the lyrics "It's a wonder I found somebody like me, like you" feels like a moment to (at least) bring their S.O. on stage. Whether they kiss on stage is their choice.

But they can still perform any other songs and this discussion is meaningless

[The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷]

Apr 8, 2021 2:56:34 GMT -5 SHOOTER said:

I see both sides. I don’t think there’s any sensible context in which you could place him kissing his boyfriend on stage during a performance and it not be perceived as a publicity stunt or blatant form of protest regardless of the intention; even if he were a fellow performer, they were singing a love song (which would probably enough to bristle the feathers) and it was just a natural reaction at the end, I can’t fathom the majority of a conservative audience not receiving it as the good ol' “gay agenda” being forced on them.

Now, with regards to the heteronormative view of any version of sexuality that is not heterosexuality, that’s not weight to be carried by non-hetero people so I do not think those stereotypes are reason enough to justify him not kissing a man on stage. Him showing up with a man on his arm could likely trigger the same kind of reaction so what’s the difference if he gave him a peck on the red carpet vs. the stage?

Now I get that both sides of the argument are essentially predicated on what the straight man thinks but my point is that - unless he wants to have a controversial Britney/Madonna moment and possibly implode his own career - I don’t think he should kiss a man during a performance just for the hell of it because it would be illogical; that’s unnecessary scrutiny and backlash that is easily avoidable. However, he shouldn’t avoid it just because there’s straight men in the room. They need to learn to live respectfully with the fact that gay men exist and, sometimes, they kiss each other in public.

Thanks SHOOTER ! 


That’s the distinction I was trying to make (and it was kind of hard to articulate on a second language )... I actually don’t think .indulgecountry and I are on opposite sides of this discussion at all, we pretty much agree on the main point. I was just thrown off a bit by the “reinforcement of negative stereotypes” part, as I think it throw a bit of an unnecessary weight on gay people having to worry about hurting straight people’s susceptibilities

[.indulgecountry]

I mean I don't think those stereotypes are valid at all of course nor that gay people should adjust their lives in a way to coddle or placate straight people by hiding their sexuality, but the gist of my argument was that TJ came out with the intention of a no-frills this-is-who-I-am-but-I'm-not-any-different-than-anybody-else vibe and him going and kissing a man on an awards show stage would just not be congruent with the messaging he's putting out. There's a balance to be had between being out and proud, and just knowing the correct time and place for things. The fact that the act of him kissing another man on an awards show is immediately associated with the term 'publicity stunt' says it all for me, because it's just not a natural thing to do. We'll see if it happens during the performance with Ryan Hurd & Maren Morris as was alluded to above, but then in their case they're two country singers, married to each other, singing a love song (which is why I brought up a Tim & Faith example earlier), so it would at least feel like a bit more of a natural act if it were to happen.


For an anecdote that kinda tries to put into context the line of thinking I'm approaching this with: When I was 17, right after I came out, I was kicked out of a Barnes & Noble because I was sitting in an armchair in one of the seating areas with a boy making out with him. I wasn't there to read. I wasn't there to shop. We had just been wandering around the mall and as teenagers who were attracted to each other, he kissed me and the next thing I knew like 20 mins had gone by and someone who worked at the store was telling us we had to leave. I'm sure someone complained that was probably homophobic, but it wasn't like me making out in the middle of a bookstore was something that straight couples were already doing. He even got all sweaty and uncomfortable and his language suggested to me that he knew that it looked that way and was concerned we would assume he was being anti-gay by asking us to leave, and I vividly remember that. Anyway, that's what the implication of him kissing his man on stage felt like to me a bit, because it feels like it would just be counter-productive. Him coming out while he's still in the prime of his career and still being able to be played on radio and have success feels like such a big win for the LGBT community imo, but we would gain nothing from him throwing it all away. Just my .02. People are free to disagree and think it would be cool for him to swap spit with boys on stage, but even ignoring the obvious backlash it would cause, I just personally don't see the point, but that's just me. /shrug

[Dustin J.]

(getting us back on track...)

What a great tune! It's upbeat, fun, and certainly has that sing-a-long potential. This is one of my faves from them ... and by far the best song they've released in a while.

[carriekins]

I'm glad to see they're performing this on the ACMs rather than All Night. Exposure can only help!

[taylor]

The incredible new song "Younger Me" has just been released. TJ wrote this solo (FACT CHECK: he wrote this with his brother John and Kendell Marvel) after the overwhelming support he received after coming out. Grab your tissues:



Beautiful, beautiful song. I felt every word, for obvious reasons. Certain lines hit me very hard, for obvious reasons. Easily among the best from their catalog.

[zaclord 🌈]

Wow, this is amazing. Definitely hits hard for me too. I'll cry to this on repeat today haha

[The Brazilian Guy 🇧🇷]

Beautiful song! I'm so glad he's able to share that with us... it warmed my heart!

[codyj100]

Tearing up at my desk. This is so relatable. Much love to TJ (and John too for his backing and support). This is probably one of my favorite things they've ever done.