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Post by Deleted on May 8, 2012 23:28:14 GMT -5
Against Me! singer Tom Gabel reveals plans to begin living as a woman in the new issue of Rolling Stone. Gabel, who has dealt privately with gender dysphoria for years, will soon begin the process of transition, by taking hormones and undergoing electrolysis treatments. Gabel will eventually take the name Laura Jane Grace, and will remain married to her wife Heather. "For me, the most terrifying thing about this was how she would accept the news," says Gabel. "But she's been super-amazing and understanding." Gabel only told a handful of family and friends about her plan to transition before talking to Rolling Stone. Because this is the first time a major rock star has come out as transgender, the singer made a point of speaking openly about it. "I'm going to have embarrassing moments," says Gabel, "and that won't be fun. But that's part of what talking to you is about – is hoping people will understand, and hoping they'll be fairly kind." The full story of Gabel's transformation is in the latest issue, on newsstands this Friday (May 11th). In it, the singer tells Josh Eells about her history of gender dysphoria, the specifics of the transition process and what becoming Laura Jane Grace will mean for the future of Against Me! www.rollingstone.com/music/news/tom-gabel-of-against-me-comes-out-as-transgender-20120508#ixzz1uLMCU000 |
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Post by Phanarchist on May 9, 2012 0:39:22 GMT -5
I wonder what the next album will sound like....
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2012 0:47:00 GMT -5
Cool! Glad she spoke out :) Props to her for figuring everything out...and cool about her wife. Maybe love isn't about sex or gender(corny but maybe).
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Post by Devil Marlena Nylund on May 9, 2012 0:56:08 GMT -5
Her.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2012 0:58:06 GMT -5
But he(or she)isn't technically a woman yet...Do we still refer to Tom as a woman now...I'm sooo confused ??? |
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Post by wolfmother on May 9, 2012 8:31:41 GMT -5
Good, good for him to be open about it, to be able to get this out of his chest. I can't imagine how difficult this decision and dealing with gender dysphoria all this time must have been.
Good that he will become a she if he needs so to be happy with his life.
I am not pretending I understand all of what goes on behind this process, I am trying to be understanding and respectful and I can only hope everybody will react the same way. Coz I guess being born as a man or woman and feeling like so all your life, being sure of it, not feeling inadequate is a privilage not everyone has.
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2012 9:10:41 GMT -5
But he(or she)isn't technically a woman yet...Do we still refer to Tom as a woman now...I'm sooo confused ??? I've never heard a universally accepted way of using pronouns to refer to trans individuals. I've known some trans individuals that prefer to be referred to as "they," "them," etc., which sounds really strange to me because it sounds like you're talking about multiple people. |
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Post by Kishi KCM on May 9, 2012 10:14:36 GMT -5
You refer to the person as they would like to be called. Every individual has their own liking or disliking.
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Post by Devil Marlena Nylund on May 9, 2012 12:56:15 GMT -5
But he(or she)isn't technically a woman yet...Do we still refer to Tom as a woman now...I'm sooo confused ??? The confusion is the error of treating gender and sex the same. Physically, she isn't a woman but from her mind's point of view, she always has been. So depending on what you mean by "technically", she always has been a woman. You refer to the person as they would like to be called. Every individual has their own liking or disliking. As soon as someone comes out as trans, they are most likely already presenting themselves as someone that is, so in Tom, or now Laura's case, she's likely dressing in more feminine clothing or least presenting herself as a woman in other ways and requesting that close friends and relatives refer to her as "she", "her", etc. Of course there are those that prefer other pronouns and don't like the whole idea of gender pronouns in the first place, at the risk of sounding insensitive, it gets a big tricky with them but with the trans people I've known, my understanding is that they'd prefer to make the actual transition as smooth as possible and the biggest challenge for people that know them is doing the pronoun switch. |
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2012 13:07:32 GMT -5
It's difficult because people differ in what pronouns they like to use so if that person hasn't come out and said which ones they like used in reference to them, you don't necessarily know which ones to use unless you ask. I had an uncomfortable situation a couple of years ago with a pre-op FMT who I thought was just a masculine lesbian and referred to them as "she".  |
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2012 18:18:43 GMT -5
Glad to see I'm not the only one confused. He/She/They/It...whatever Tom/Laura want's to be called is cool, I'm just happy their happy :)
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Post by Deleted on May 9, 2012 20:31:02 GMT -5
I always have the pronoun match the name. Thus, when referring to him as "Tom Gabel", it will be masculine & when referring to her as "Laura Grace", it will be feminine.
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